Statements Victims of Domestic Violence Would Rather Not Hear Everything will be all right.
What did you do to provoke him?
He will never see daylight again. (The implication that the offender will remain incarcerated forever.)
Nice girls don’t end up in relationships with guys like that. (abusers)
He is an upstanding citizen. He would never do anything like that.
It is God’s will for you to remain with him.
He has never acted like this before.
If you file criminal charges, he won’t be able to earn a living.
Why didn’t you fight back?
I know how you feel.
Your children need their father.
He can’t help it…(He has issues.)
I suppose the moral of this little listing is: think before you speak! The key in serving crime victims is to be quick to listen and slow to speak. Think carefully before you draw erroneous conclusions. And most of all don’t hesitate to extend compassion to those that have been victims.